Dignity . . . Long Dismissed

For no other reason than I love this picture.

It seems 4chan has once again very successfully trolled feminists.  This latest troll job has gotten women to take pictures urinating on themselves and then post them for all the world to see.  This is supposed to be in some sort of solidarity with women who soil themselves while raped (which is also a 4chan meme). Since we can no longer tell the difference between actual rape and what these women want us to think rape is, how is this supposed to help?

This is more evidence of the SJW/Feminist thought.  Ugly is beautiful.  Beautiful is Ugly.  Dignity is shameful and shame is pride.  On and on it continues.

Hilariously, 4Chan also began the free bleeding movement (also shown in the linked article).  It seems my hope of feminist taking it so far as to continue to show their ridiculous hand continues and they more successfully turn more women away themselves than anything any anti-feminist could write.

(H/T commenter Is This Thing On? at Rational Male)

Your Children Do Not Come First

There is a story I’ve been meaning to put down here for quite some time.  Rollo’s post today on the Red Pill Parent reminded me of it this morning (It’s a very good post.  Take the time to read it).

My husband told me this story years ago and it has always stuck with me.

When a man and a women marry, they begin the marriage by joining hands.  In many marriages today, when a child comes along, the husband and wife will break their circle by letting the child join in it.  Then another child comes and joins in the circle as well and so on and so forth.

As the children grow and leave the home, they leave the circle broken. It is not so easy for the husband and wife to simply join hands again.  It was a mistake for them to ever let go.  Instead, the man and wife never let go of one another.  Rather, when children come, they are put inside the circle the man and wife have created together.  A circle that is never broken.

Your husband and marriage come first.  Not only will your marriage be better off for it, contrary to popular belief, your children will be, as well.

Healthy Masculinity!

By now you’ve probably heard that the University of Tennessee is asking their students to use “gender neutral pronouns such as ‘ze'”. . . in order to create a more inclusive campus.”  There were a bunch of other recommendations as well that I don’t have the stomach to look up right now such as “xe”, “xir” and other ridiculousness (while googling an article for this post, the UT webpage has been removed and it looks like they have let this go).

Vanderbilt University is now joining the fun.  Only this one won’t be so easily mocked because it is far more mainstream (H/T – Alpha Game).

Vanderbilt University’s Women’s Center will be hosting a week-long event dedicated to lecturing men about what it means to have “healthy masculinity.”

The “Healthy Masculinities Week” is sponsored by Vanderbilt’s Margaret Cuninggim Women’s Center, which claims to be devoted to “Celebrating Women” while “Empowering All.”

The mission of the Women’s Center is to affirm a “space for all members of the Vanderbilt community that acknowledges and actively resists sexism, racism, homophobia, and all forms of oppression while advocating for positive social change.”

The “core values” of the Women’s Center includes the idea that, “progress toward gender equality calls all of us to be champions for change” while simultaneously claiming to “celebrate the unique differences among all persons and work to build community in diversity.”

“Healthy Masculinities Week” hopes to encourage men to “[e]xplore healthy masculinity through various lenses,” such as “American society, the gay and bisexual community, fraternities, and more.”

Allow me to translate – We desire to control the men because we are afraid of you.  We’re not really all that afraid you’re going to hurt us, but we know that if you start to think for yourselves, you will supplant us.  So, we will define masculinity for you.  What we propose won’t actually arose us or even attract us, but it will leave you waiting for us when, at around 30-35, we are ready to marry “A good man”.  So, because we know you want to sleep with us, we will tell you what we want you to be when we actually want you to impregnate us and provide for us.  You will listen because sex.  

That’s basically it in a nutshell.  To be sure, many of these women don’t consciously think what I’ve written out above.  It’s there, but they won’t allow themselves to think about it too much because it is still somewhat shameful to say aloud.  However, to be perfectly clear, due to peak hypergamy more and more feminists are willing to think in a far clearer manner about this and to put voice to it.  It’ll only continue to be more vocalized as it becomes more acceptable to admit it.

Women have been attempting to define masculinity, likely since the beginning.  In the last few decades we have succeeded.  Men and women are suffering because of it.  Women aren’t going to stop trying to tell you men what we think we want.  Hopefully it is obvious by now that we are terrible at this and you men must define it for yourselves and not fear doing so.  As a group, we will use this fear (and desire for sex) against you in one manner or another, consciously or not.

By the way, one of the sponsors of the event is the Office of LGBTQI Life. I wondered when the number pf letters would get longer.  It was only a matter of time.

And if anyone is thinking of Black Knighting anything like this in the future, will this Open Code of Conduct has you covered (H/T Vox Popoli).

Our open source community prioritizes marginalized people’s safety over privileged people’s comfort. We will not act on complaints regarding:

~‘Reverse’ -isms, including ‘reverse racism,’ ‘reverse sexism,’ and ‘cisphobia’

~Reasonable communication of boundaries, such as “leave me alone,” “go away,” or “I’m not discussing this with you”

~Refusal to explain or debate social justice concepts

~Communicating in a ‘tone’ you don’t find congenial

~Criticizing racist, sexist, cissexist, or otherwise oppressive behavior or assumptions

Thank goodness creativity is on our side because the SJW’s aren’t even bothering to try to hide their thought policing any more.

It’s in His Nature to be Masculine

I want to share a field report with you from RPW today.

I happened upon the red pill life back in January of this year. I was looking for ways to improve my new marriage by getting back to traditional values and was trying to research ways when a link popped up concerning red pill. Eventually I found my way here and became obsessed. My old ways were mostly easy to give up – or so I thought. I adopted the red pill woman mentality relatively easily. When I read The Surrendered Wife and tried to implement Laura’s ideas, I hit some road blocks. 

I would literally have to trust my husband with everything; our livelihood, multiple decisions about family and money, stuff I knew based on our two year relationship, he couldn’t do. He forgets literally everything I tell him, even if it’s multiple times. One weekend I had to work and the kids wore the same underwear two days in a row! I fell apart, came here to try and get my questions answered on how to fix my husband and make him an alpha – and had my ass torn apart and handed back to me. I almost gave up the whole red pill idea right then. But one poster in particular (I’ll always remember her!) said something that clicked and it as something to the effect of I was only fooling myself into thinking I had surrendered but by the way I told my story it was obvious to red pill women I had not. 

So I tried again. Things honestly couldn’t get worse for my husband and I unless he was to lose his job. We rent a place from his parents, drive cars that are over 10 years old and are financially quite poor and over burdened. So I thought, “what the hell? Things truly can’t get much worse” and I just let my husband have it all. Do you know what? I have never been more happy to be so completely wrong about something in my whole life!!!!!!

What a burden has been lifted off my shoulders to not handle the finances anymore! He’s stepped up, created a budget, he gives me a budget I can stick to and as long as I’m under it I know we have money. He goes after sales bonuses like a lion after prey because he now sees the money in our account directly – I haven’t looked at our bank account in months! Just recently my husband needed to replace his car and we had money saved because he had begun a car fund. He was talking up a real storm about a car I was worried would cost too much in upkeep and insurance and isn’t practical for our family – do you know he gave up on that car himself?! He asked me my opinion on the car and I was DYING to give it to him but instead I did as Mrs. Doyle instructed and replied “whatever you think.” He instead changed his mind and bought a 4 door sedan and actually came in under budget! And our insurance dropped $25 a month! The change has been incredible! 

The best part is that my husband noticed my changes and thanked me the other day. “I’ve never felt more in charge of my own life or family and I’ve never felt more like a man in any relationship.” That’s what he said to me. I’ll always be red pill and always be a surrendered wife. It truly does work.

One of the first things that is very noticeable about new women coming in and wanting to change their marriages is how they want to benefits of submitting, but don’t actually want to submit.  The idea of real submission is so terrifying that it is literally inconceivable.  They dress prettily, the cook, they clean, but when it comes to really letting go, to truly submitting to their man, they can’t do it and they can’t even admit they can’t do it.  What they want is to top from the bottom.  They need to maintain true control for fear of relinquishing.

I don’t say this to pick on these women (To a different degree I was there at one point, as well).  It’s all they know.  It’s all they’ve been taught, in most cases, and the fear is real.  But when they surrender and truly let go of their fear (or at least not let it rule them), blossoming occurs.  In the women. In the men, but most importantly, in the marriage.

The second thing I always notice in these progress field reports is that, when men are given the space to be masculine, they will be masculine.  It has been taught out of them, but it is a natural part of who they are.  Get out of the way and watch them be men.


SJWs Always Lie available at Amazon


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SJWs Always Lie is on sale at Amazon now.  The official announcement is tomorrow (the anniversary of GamerGate) but you can purchase it now.  Here is the blurb from Amazon:

Social Justice Warriors have plagued mankind for more than 150 years, but only in the last 30 years has their ideology become dominant in the West. Having invaded one institution of the cultural high ground after another, from corporations and churches to video games and government, there is nowhere that remains entirely free of their intolerant thought and speech policing. 

Because the SJW agenda of diversity, tolerance, inclusiveness, and equality flies in the face of both science and observable reality, SJWs relentlessly work to prevent normal people from thinking or speaking in any manner that will violate their ever-mutating Narrative. They police science, philosophy, technology, and even history in order to maintain the pretense that their agenda remains inevitable in a modern world that contradicts it on a daily basis. 

The book is named after the First Law of SJW: SJWs always lie. SJWS ALWAYS LIE is a useful guide to understanding, anticipating, and surviving SJW attacks from the perspective of a man who has not only survived, but thrived, after experiencing multiple attempts by Social Justice Warriors to disqualify, discredit, and disemploy him in the same manner they have successfully attacked Nobel Laureates, technology CEOs, broadcasters, sports commentators, school principals, and policemen. It analyzes well-known SJW attacks as well as the two most successful examples of resistance to the SJW Narrative, #GamerGate and Sad Puppies. 

Written by Vox Day, Supreme Dark Lord of the Evil Legion of Evil and three-time Hugo nominee who is described as the most hated man in science fiction by Black Gate and The Wall Street Journal, SJWS ALWAYS LIE is a powerful weapon in the cultural war against the thought police. 

For additional research, I recommend reading Vox’s latest posts on the Hugo Awards.  They are illuminating, especially the comments from the people who attended in person.  I’m not sure of the website this was taken from, but it was quoted here.  

I actually went to Sasquan this year. This had nothing to do with the current drama – it’s simply the first time WorldCon has been held in a location I could reasonably travel to, and I wanted to go. I won’t be going to another. I’m not employing hyperbole when I say that many of the people there made my skin crawl (and I go to Cons whenever I can, so this is not ‘those nerds are creepy’). I have never actually seen so many adults, many of them significantly older than me, so openly campaigning for attention for nothing at all like 14 year old girls on facebook, and the reactions to the various panels, and the Hugo announcements themselves, were downright infantile. I have been a liberal for as long as I have had a political identity, and I can’t make common cause with these people anymore. Our causes aren’t common. These smug self-congratulatory nitwits actually ARE thought police, and are reveling in it, and are GLORIFYING acting like children. I don’t understand how adults with their own agency are capable of doing this without any self-awareness, and actually thinking it makes them heroes.

This is the vast majority of your allies (or at least the most vocal and visible portion of them, but that may be giving too much benefit of doubt). They think acting more like children than actual children present at WorldCon is a good thing, so it’s literally an impossibility that they are actually going to employ anything as complex as 4GW tactics to combat their enemies. They are emotional reactionaries focusing on one short-term goal at a time. They may have the determination to fight for a long time (after all, they are combatting evil and oppression!), but they also ensure that their enemies will never lack for motivation to oppose them either. In the long run, this is good for the Rebel Alliance, but is probably a loss for sanity.

Very mild surprise was all I could muster.

The Escape

He glanced at her and did not answer. Then he said, “I like cigarettes, Miss Taggart. I like to think of fire held in a man’s hand. Fire, a dangerous force, tamed at his fingertips. I often wonder about the hours when a man sits alone, watching the smoke of a cigarette, thinking. I wonder what great things have come from such hours. When a man thinks, there is a spot of fire alive in his mind—and it is proper that he should have the burning point of a cigarette as his one expression.”

“Do they ever think?” she asked involuntarily, and stopped; the question was her one personal torture and she did not want to discuss it.

The old man looked as if he had noticed the sudden stop and understood it; but he did not start discussing it; he said, instead, “I don’t like the thing that’s happening to people, Miss Taggart.”


“I don’t know. But I’ve watched them here for twenty years and I’ve seen the change. They used to rush through here, and it was wonderful to watch, it was the hurry of men who knew where they were going and were eager to get there. Now they’re hurrying because they are afraid. It’s not a purpose that drives them, it’s fear. They’re not going anywhere, they’re escaping. And I don’t think they know what it is that they want to escape.

Rand, Ayn (2005-04-21). Atlas Shrugged: (Centennial Edition) (p. 64). Penguin Group. Kindle Edition.

SJWs Always Lie

Vox Day is writing a new bookSJWS ALWAYS LIE: Taking Down the Thought Police to be released August 27th; the first anniversary of #GamerGate (Nice touch!).


As you can see, the cover is an homage to another political book well-loved by the Left, Jonah Goldberg’s Liberal Fascism. But SJWs is a lighter read, it’s meant to be a book that serves as a handbook and a reference for those who already oppose the self-appointed thought police as well as an evangelical tract that can be used to convince neutral parties that the SJWS are a serious problem and a direct threat to them even though they may be currently unaware of it. In other words, it’s written more in the vein of The Irrational Atheist than The Return of the Great Depression.

There is a chapter devoted to GamerGate, a chapter devoted to the Hugo Awards, and a chapter that contains a systematic breakdown of the standard SJW attack sequence as well as recommendations on how to respond to it. It contains a few surprises, as well as a few elements that will not be a surprise to anyone at all. It is my hope that SJWs will prove but one of many useful weapons to people across the West as the long-overdue counterattack against the thought and speech police grows and gains momentum.

Vox has been writing a lot on SJWs regarding the Hugo awards, #GamerGate, and in general.  It’s been  educational and fun to read his insights.  These insights are just as important to the manosphere as they are to the Hugo’s, #GamerGate, and any other sphere that is tired of the incessant lies used to take over nearly every organization imaginable.

It is possible to fight back. People are and they are succeeding.  Keep your eye out for this on the 27th.  I will keep you updated.


Equality! Give me more!

Vox Day put this up at Alpha Game the other day and made the point that feminist will always have the second picture in mind when they speak about equality.  This is a very important concept to keep in mind today, especially as we fight back and are inundated with people telling us, “It’s thanks to feminists that you have a choice today!  How could you be so ungrateful!”

This plea to the past and to gratitude is going to become more and more common and it won’t work.  When it fails, look for more and more of the above.  Many will move to what appears to be a more moderate position; something that appears to be fair.  Just note the name: feminism4fairness.  While consciously many women will actually believe this, that they wish for the picture on the left (and some will believe it wholeheartedly), for most it is just part and parcel of maintaining what they want, the picture on the right and as some have noted, that’s not even accurate, because the man should be standing in a hole, basically holding the other two up.

This appeal to fairness is merely part of what Rollo refers to as the feminine imperative.  It is a play to appeal to men, while maintain what women have and to keep reaching for more.  It will effectively pull the wool over the eyes of men and women who might start waking up, but still don’t want to admit the truth.  Just notice the Males Can Die at the bottom.

Don’t be fooled into thinking that this appeal to actual fairness is anything more than attempt to maintain the status quo.  It will be tempting for men and women as more and more people wake up.  But it’s nothing more than a slight retreat.  Just enough to confound and then keep plowing forward.  I’m not too sure what the Males Must Die is about at the bottom, if it’s some kind of reply to this post or if it’s part of this whole message, but it’s the truest thing in this picture.  Don’t forget that.

UPDATE: Out of curiosity, I googled feminism4fairness.  It’s an instagram site and I’m confident it’s satire.  Poe’s law means I can’t be certain, but I’m all but sure.

Submissive vs Subservient (or Doormat)

I was asked at RPW, what is the difference between being submissive and subservient (or being a doormat)?  I think doormat is a better word given the first definition of subservient.

~ prepared to obey others unquestioningly.

In almost every single scenario, I agree with this. I am prepared to obey my husband without question because he has earned my trust. This is something I have given him, that I freely choose to give him, because I know he would never abuse it.

This, I believe, is the difference and why I think doormat (though I loathe to use this feminist word) is more apt.  There is a connotation of fear behind it.  Where the woman will submit not out of choice, but because she is afraid (tangentially, this is why feminists like to use this word to describe women who choose to submit because the fear connotation is meant to make submissive women feel small and unimportant.  It’s also why they call our husbands tyrants.  It will illicit fear in other women so they will not choose this path.  It’s worked remarkably well). Only submission to one’s husband is a choice and one that, when made well, elicits in women a strength and freedom that, today, is wholly surprising and, to many, beyond belief.

The key to this is to find a man and decide before you marry if he is deserving of this level of trust.

Now, a word on fear.  The fear I’m talking about here is more of a primal one.  A fear in which the woman knows that something horrible will happen if she is not completely compliant.  Men who create fear like this, while they do exist, are not common.  No, not all men are deserving of submission and not because they will cause this fear, but because they won’t respect it.  There are some men who will take advantage of it for various reasons (though, again, not as prevalent as feminists would have us believe, nor are they nonexistent).

While I will likely get slammed for this for those who like to misunderstand to redirect (SJW’s I’m looking at you), there is another type of fear that even submissive women might experience.  This fear, I believe, when respected, is just fine (let’s think of levels of fear here.  I’m not talking terrified.  I’m talking wary).  This is fear of disappointing.  We’ve all experienced this.  We have a person in our lives whom we highly respect.  Parents, a boss, a friend, a colleague, and even our husbands whom have expectations of us.  We know that if these expectations are not met this person will be disappointed in us.  It is a driving force and one not to be mistaken for fear for our well being.  I believe this to be fine as it is a natural consequence of respect.  Now, one should work to grow past this as it is not necessary, but recognize it for what it is. It is not there because of a husband lording over you, rather it is a consequence of respect.  Don’t let those who would use words against you turn it into something that it is not.


How can I support my husband when he is out of a job?



Emily asks the following:

My question for you is this: how can a stay-at-home wife and mother best support her husband when he’s out of a job? I’ve tried at various times being helpful (as best I could, though I’m not sure it was received as such) and staying out of it entirely. I’ve also suggested finding a job myself – this, I think, was a mistake, or at least the way I phrased it was a mistake. My husband definitely took it as criticism of his abilities. My current strategy – keeping my mouth shut and staying up all night worrying – is neither helping nor particularly healthy, I imagine. We’re not facing eviction or anything yet, but we are burning through our retirement savings. Is there anything (aside from scrimping as much as possible) I can do to help the situation, or is this simply a ride-it-out and trust moment?

Help during a time like this can be difficult, to say the least.  We tend to think that help has to be a very active thing.  That if we are not doing something, and something big at that, it can’t be help.  Especially when we are afraid because when we give into our fear and help in a way that makes us feel better, that usually makes this situation worse. When it comes to our husbands, especially in this kind of situation, help will often look very different than we think it should or even want it to. I don’t think it wrong for a wife to offer to go back to work in this situation, but as Emily said, wording is very important.  Timing as well.  It should be brought up as one option of many and mentioned once for him to consider and then not brought up again unless he truly wants to consider it.  There are those who will try to convince you that not wanting his wife to work is weakness on the man’s part.  This is typically not the case.  A husband wants very much to care for his wife, to provide for her and their family.  The  drive to want to do this on his own is a strength.  A strength we should never belittle or try to take from him. It is part of his masculinity and not for us to define, especially when we are afraid. First, the easy stuff to help with.  Scrimp, scrimp, scrimp.  Find cheap recipes to make for meals, including making your own bread.  There are some very easy bread recipes out there (look into sourdough and try to find a starter from a friend that you don’t have to buy.  Also, no kneed yeast breads). One can make a loaf of bread for less than a dollar a loaf and the taste is out of this world.  If anyone has any ideas for inexpensive family recipes, leave them in the comments.  Use your grocery store circulars.  One can find really good deals in those from time to time.  Ask friends for their Sunday paper’s coupons that they don’t use and get online and print coupons from there (if it’s cost effective.  Take into account the price of paper and ink to do this). Lastly, depending on where you live, look around your area for fruits and greens that are wild.  Things like plantain leaf, purslane, and dandelion greens are amazingly healthy and right out your front door.  It might seem unorthodox at first, but it’s one of those things you might not stop doing.  They are very tasty. Drive less and walk more, if possible.  This is one of those things that can have a double duty as, if your husband comes with you, you can spend time with your family, keep it fun and light and enjoy each other even in this difficult time.  Again, please leave any other ideas in the comments. Now, lets get to the help that he really needs from his wife.  In this situation, the help that a husband needs, more than anything else, is to know that you trust him and aren’t afraid.  He needs to know that you 100% support him and trust him to get a new job so he can continue to do his job of leading his family.  He is feeling like he failed, dejected and afraid.  He doesn’t want you to know any of that, at least not all of it so he will put on a strong front, for you as much for himself.  Nothing can take down a vulnerable husband faster than a wife who is afraid and is trying to take control of the situation.  So, what does a wife do?  First and foremost, she learns to let go of the fear.  This is the most difficult thing for her to do.  You’ll have to fake it at first, but lying awake at night worrying is going to wear on both of you.  Even as you’re faking it, your husband will have an inkling that you are afraid, that little bit you can’t hide in your eyes.  You must work to be truly not afraid.  You must work to put your trust completely in him, so much so that you are literally 100% unafraid of this situation.  The way in which this will build him up and give him confidence is not in me to describe.  But your complete faith in him will drive him to do whatever he can to get back on his feet. If your Christian, PRAY.  Give your fear to God.  All of it. Remind yourself, that even should the very worst, come.  You will still be together as a family.  Nothing can pull you apart as long as you don’t let it.  This should be a huge comfort to you, because no matter what, you will be together.  Have faith that God will pull you through and trust your husband implicitly to do that.  He won’t be able to do it without you.  Also, find that which brings joy to your life.  When the fear is poking up, put your entire focus on that thing.  If you like to garden, plan your garden.  In your head, make the most beautiful garden you can and plan every inch of it. Find something like this that you can force yourself to focus on. So, how is this, what many people will see as passivity, truly helping?  It seems as if we are doing nothing and if we aren’t actively doing something everything will fall apart and we will fail. Or the things that we can do, the scrimping and making our houses a home, are simply secondary and doing nothing to directly effect the situation.  Don’t make this mistake.  We are wives and the very best and most direct thing we can do to help in this situation is to let our husbands know that our confidence in them is unwavering. That they are literally our knights in shining armor.  Let them be that.  This is not passive, it is not wrong and it is not weakness.  Rather, the ability to let go of our fear is a true feminine strength.  Strive for this, this feminine strength that with practice we can find and do not let others convince you it is weakness.  As when you do find it, the masculine strength it can inspire in your husband will amaze you.


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