Commenter Sherlock shared a paper with us called Inner Game Sticking Points in the Equality post comment section.  I haven’t read more than the first page but A Norther Observer points out a hum dinger of a message written on that page:

Men‘s disconnection with women, it turns out, is simply a bread crumb trail back to where we‘re disconnected from ourselves.

Masculinity.  It drives who you men are, for yourselves.   We women want it.  No, we need it . . . . and we will work for it, if you let us.  We need you whether we will admit it or not because in so many ways, it is your masculinity that makes us feminine.  Then we can give that back to you.